For parents of 20-somethings
They need a coach and a parent. You can’t be both.
As a parent, I can tell you what I think will work for my kids. But I don’t live in their skin, and I can’t feel what they feel. A coach helps them figure out what works for them, so you get to just be the parent.
Certified, The Life Coach School · 2017
Chapters at Colorado School of Mines, CU Boulder, U of Minnesota
Clients across the U.S., all on Zoom
I’ve been you
“This is too hard. I’m not going to make it.”
I got that phone call freshman year from each of my three. The food, the sleep, the classes, the friends. They all leveled up, not perfectly, but they figured it out.
My middle son is gifted, dyslexic and ADHD, and he transferred schools his sophomore year. I know this road, and I know how hard it is to stand on the side of it.
How it works when you’re paying
Four steps, then you step out.
Step 1
You and I talk
Tell me what you’re seeing. No charge, no pressure.
Step 2
I meet your son or daughter
A free 45-minute Clarity Call. They have to want this, so the first real conversation is with them.
Step 3
I text you if it’s a fit
If it isn’t, I’ll tell you that too, and we’ll find something else.
Step 4
You get an invoice
Then you step out. From here, it’s their work.
What you’ll hear from me
What they say stays between us.
That’s why it works. They tell me the truth because they know it won’t get back to you.
The one exception: if I’m ever sincerely worried about their safety, I’ll reach out to you.
And I’m glad to listen to your worries along the way. You don’t have to carry them alone either.
What they get
Six months, one-on-one.
A one-hour Zoom session every week
Text support between sessions
Tools they keep for the rest of their lives
We’ll talk about cost on your Clarity Call. Pay in full or monthly.
Think of it as one more college class. I can’t imagine a better one to set your child up for success.
It costs less than a single class at the average private college. And this one is one-on-one: they learn the tools, practice them with a coach, and use them every time they want to improve their lives.
Letting go, the hard part
Hold them like a bar of soap.
Squeeze too hard and it slips right out of your hands. What our 20-somethings want from us is confidence and trust, because they don’t feel confident quite yet. If you hold them loosely, I promise they listen more.
A little dirt gives them grip.
Hair that’s too clean is shiny, but it won’t hold a style. A little dirty, and it has texture. Our kids are the same. A little struggle is what gives them depth.
For moms
Learning to let go yourself?
I also coach parents. I’m a coach in Tara Simkins’s Soul Shine Labs, an online community where women learn to let go of their 20- and 30-year-olds and build a life of their own.
Parents ask
Is this therapy?
No. We don’t dig through the past. We look at what they’re thinking now and where they want to go. Some of my clients also see a therapist, and the two work well together.
What if my kid doesn’t want to?
Then it won’t work, and I’ll tell you so. That’s why the first session is with them.
Where do you meet?
Every session is on Zoom. My clients are all over the country.
Hold them loosely. Trust them.
Tell me what you’re seeing. The first conversation is free.